One of the most common compliments I get is that I have great skin. It’s a sweet compliment and I do have “good/great/glowing/perfect” skin.’
It’s a sweet compliment. However, sometimes it’s also one of my least favorite compliments. By all means give me the compliment, but it makes me feel like because I have “good skin?” It implies that other people don’t. And that’s not true. Maybe your complexion is uneven or you have acne or you have scars or pigmentation issues, but that doesn’t make you any less beautiful or your skin any less special.
I definitely have my days where I freak out over a breakout. My mom is on an arthritis medicine that makes her break out in a rash all over her mouth and chin. It devastates her. It kills me that my mom, my absolute hero, thinks she’s any less beautiful because of some acne. Or that anyone would ever treat her different due to it. We all have media telling us we have to be perfect and airbrushed and we don’t. If we want to that’s ok. If we don’t want to that’s ok too.
The fact that I love to wear makeup may make it seem hypocritical that I’m talking about loving your skin. However, I love wearing makeup. It feels like battle armor. I wear it for me. I wear it to accentuate my favorite things about my face. If you want to wear it to make you feel better about your skin? Do it. Do you.
Lastly, before you continue this article I want to make something clear: There is no special secret product. Not really. Plus, if there is a secret product? It won’t work for everyone. So before I tell you my routine (there are links to all of them in the routines) just know they may not work for you.
Now onto my “good” skin.
There are several factors to it:A) A lot of it is genetic. My mother’s family ages well. I have an aunt that’s eighty and looks like she’s in her early fifties. My mom is in her late fifties and looks like she’s in her late thirties or early forties. Genetics play a lot into how you age. If I’d gotten it from my father’s side…well I’d look older than I do. Cutrently I’m twenty-seven.
B) Everyone’s skin is beautiful. No matter the complexion, the color, the imperfections. Own your skin. You are beautiful.
C) Maintenance. Maintenance. Maintenance. Even though my mother’s side of the family ages well and has “good” skin so, if you are a female in my family,* you are taught to have a skin routine. It changes as you get older, but there are ground rules. The holy trinity, as I call them, is such:
- Always wash your face when you wake up and before you go to bed.
- Never go to sleep with makeup on.
- ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS wear sunscreen and moisturize.
Now I emphasized that last one for a reason. My family doesn’t tan intentionally, definitely not in tanning beds or other artificial methods. Partially it’s just skin care, but my mom’s family is at a high risk for cancer (almost every woman on that side has died from cancer). So if they develop one it’s from hard labor outside or just naturally occurs from being outside. No tanning oil. My family always buys SPF 40.
However I have a bit of a different situation. I have a Vitamin D deficiency I inherited from my grandmother who lived through the great depression. It doesn’t matter how many vitamins I take (I take 2000 units of Vitamin D a day) or Vitamin D rich foods I eat, I still have the deficiency, which leads to why I’m so pale. I’m legitimately allergic to the sun. If I do not apply sunscreen (and I buy SPF 60 and above) every two hours I will burn, my skin will blister, welt, and then, finally, turn purple. Sun poisoning is a thing. Needless to say I prefer to swim at night in my parent’s pool and am under the umbrella on the beach. And even with all that SPF, you will know when I’ve been in the sun a lot because my freckles come out full force. I have a lot of freckles too.
My face is also, naturally, very flushed. I use a lot of color correcter, but people say it looks natural. I still hate those rosy ass cheeks and my freckles, but everyone has things they can’t change and don’t like about themselves. This is one of mine, but thank GOD for foundation.
However, as I keep getting complimented on my skin (and if you like it go ahead and compliment, I appreciate it, just don’t hate on your skin because every skin color and type is beautiful in it’s own way) I wanted to share a few things with you:
When I was in middle school I did an experiment. My nose is very oily and prone to blackheads. After reading a lot of stuff on line and finding that drinking a ton of water helps a LOT with your skin, I decided I’d only drink water for two months. And guess what? My skin was pristine. No more blackheads. Not at all. And I was glowy.
However, after two months, I found I missed soda too much and went off the water experiment. Not to mention that the water is Georgia is intensely chemically treated and you can DEFINITELY taste it. Ick.
However this leads me to: TIP 1: Drink a ton of water. Awhile back I saw a lot of gallon of water a day challenges going around. While I, and my doctors, see it as beneficial? I am definitely not asking you to do this. I will advise you though, to switch out. For every coffee or soda or juice you drink, drink 8oz of water. If you can manage it try 16oz. If you can do about three of those a day (which is what I did before I switched to drinking water, coffee, and an occasional pressed juice and nothing else) it should keep some balance. But I’m not a doctor and I haven’t consulted with one on this advice. I’m going from personal experiences as well as results from friends and acquaintances I suggest this too.
Secondly, I was talking to my a family member recently, who was telling me I didn’t understand skin issues (which yes I do, but that’s a whole other post I need to write, however, I will say: when I vomit, for some reason, it bursts blood vessels in my face and I look like I have specks of blood all over my face and eyelids) and I asked them how many times had they passed out with their makeup on as we both wear full faces and taking them off is a rigorous process. They admitted it happened close to half the time. I have never gone to sleep with my makeup on for various reasons. When you’re wearing a full face? It clogs your pores and can give you styes(for what a stye is click here). This is prime breakout material.
This leads me to TIP 2: Never go to bed with your makeup on. I don’t care how tired you are. Get that shit off, completely off, even if you don’t exactly do your whole nightly routine.
Wearing a full face of makeup ALL the time is stressful for your face. I can’t tell you how many people experience breakouts and things they have to further cover and conceal in their makeup game. Your skin needs to breathe. It needs time off.
Also stop wearing makeup when you work out. I’m not here to judge. I really don’t give a f*ck if you wear it or not, BUT it is PROVEN that sweat helps your skin detox and protects it, so let your skin reap the natural benefits. And for the record, I like cardio, yoga, and dancing. So for all you trolls coming to say something about me not going to a gym, my ass does work out when my body allows me.
This is TIP 3: Try to go one day without wearing makeup. I personally go for two, but that one day to breathe can really make a ton of difference. This day is also a good day to reach for that masque you bought for your down time. Pamper your skin.
Look, I know time is valuable and most of us don’t have a lot of it. However, I allot myself ten minutes in the morning and night for my skin routine, which I’m about to list the products of and take you through mine, but for consistency:
TIP 4: Have a morning and night skin routine and find what works for you. Do not take my routine as bible. Talk to your friends, find people on the social media who have similar complexion and skin types as you, and ALWAYS READ REVIEWS OF PRODUCTS BEFORE YOU BUY THEM.
For example I’m Caucasian and I live in the deep south. We have swamp heat. I will tell you this a million times in this post but because it’s so humid here? You have to moisturize because that swamp heat will dry you out, but in dry heat too much moisture will make you greasy. Always take in the weather conditions where you live or are visiting and what season is going on. Also what my skin needs? It’s not the same as what other people or other complexions may need. Tailor your skin care to you and don’t copy anyone.
So for my final bit…here is my skin routine, which has gotten more and more extensive as I’ve gotten older, I’m currently twenty-seven,to handle saggy skin and fine lines and wrinkles.
Morning Routine Products and Steps(this is also done before makeup if I do it first thing in the morning:
1. Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Stress Control Power Cream Wash with Cold Water. Pat dry with hand towel.
2. Run Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Stress Control Triple Action Toner with Cotton Pad over face & let dry while washing and drying hands for next step.
3. Mix a dime sized dab of Shea Moisture Dragon’s Blood and Coffee Cherry Instant Rebound Moisturizer with one pump of Aveeno Ultra-Calming Daily Moisturizer and let sink in for a few minutes.
4. Swipe Tony Moly’s Panda’s Dream So Cool Stick under eyes and go!
Preface: I have a condition called PCOS that causes me to grow a bit of a neck beard so I have to shave every night. Also it’s better to shave at night because the hair grows back a bit slower.
Night Routine without Makeup:
1. Mix Pure Silk Rich and Luxurious Shave Creams with HOT water and lather my face.
2. Run Venus Razor under hot water and shave.
3. Wash face with Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Stress Control Power Clear Scrub with cold water. Pat face dry with hand towel.
4. Run Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Stress Control Triple Action Toner with Cotton Pad over face & let dry while washing and drying hands for next step.
4.5. 1 day a week I use a Biore Deep Cleansing Pore Strip on my nose.
5. Dab CeraVe Skin Renewing Night Cream and PONDS Rejuvenating Anti Wrinkle Cream (an oldie but goodie, you can find it at Dollar Generals and Bargain stores) all over neck and face and gently rub it in.
If I’m taking off Makeup I still do all of this in this order, but start with makeup wipes and Garnier Micellar Water.
Remember that this is what works for me, but what works for you could, and probably is, different. And know that makeup is a lot easier to handle doing when the base is healthy. Take care of yourself. Your body will thank you for it later.
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❤ Later Lovelies
*While I do not believe in gender norms I live in the deep south and my family does.
P.s. My favorite compliment is that I smell good. 😉